I'm sure if you are reading this you have noticed how close our kids are born. I know I mentioned before we had discussed our family planning when we got engaged and how we wanted to wait till a certain time and then try to be pregnant by the time the youngest is a year old for the next round of newborn days. But this time around I'd like to talk about why we're happy our kids are born this close together:
- We
can get through the newborn days quicker: the newborn days are
definitely the hardest days. I hate the idea of getting through them,
then spending years with blissful sleep and then starting ALL over
again. It's much easier to just have a few months of nice sleep before
starting over with. Plus, I can keep track of things that helped and I
(usually) don't forget them by the time I can use the tips I learned
again.
- Our kids will go to school together. This is a
big one. Larry and I both had our siblings in our schools with us and it
helped us help them. We were able to help them make friends, figure out
the school floor plan, and learn from our mistakes and lessons. While
they might end up going to prom together (which could get expensive) or
other big events, I do like the idea of them all going as a group when
possible.
- We can hold onto our hand me downs and reuse
as much as possible. I've loved that we haven't had to buy a newborn car
seat since Cara was born, the one we got has been in good condition and
hasn't expired yet. We've just upgraded them to a convertible seat once
they outgrew the newborn one (usually around 9 months). Plus having all
girls (so far) we've been able to hand down ALL the clothes, pajamas,
cribs, blankets, burp rags, walkers, play mats, teether toys, bath
towels...all of it!
- They'll be best friends and be able
to share a room easier. This might just be wishful thinking, but so far
all the girls love each other. Yes, they have moments of fighting and
not wanting to share, but for the most part, they love being around each
other. If one is missing the other one is asking where she is. And they
LOVE playing with Lucy and getting her to smile. Cara and Gwen do great with
sharing a room, they love to jump around and play and teach each other
(it might not be the things I LOVE they are learning, like making a mess
with clothes and taking night time diapers off in the middle of the
night). I really feel it's helping them become closer and be friends
that look after and protect each other.
- We can pause our
life to have the kids. We can go through all the sleep training, nap
times (which means being confined to the house), potty training, all
those early stage thing and then pick it right back up once we're out of
those days. I look forward to having family vacations, birthday
parties, fun road trips, holiday events, and make all the memories.
However, I do NOT want to be stressed out about a newborn while doing
those. We do still make memories and do fun things, but I can't wait
till the kids are old enough to go to Disneyland (we have a BIG Disney
World trip planned once the youngest is around 5 so they remember it and
it's worth it). I'm okay with pausing for a bit. We had many years
before kids to do fun things, we slow down for a few years, and then
start right back up. It's nice to slow down and enjoy the moments when
you can.
It still might seem crazy to most or others,
but we absolutely love having our family the way it is. It has worked
out JUST the way we wanted and hoped. It's really helped me realize I've
gotten everything I've wanted in life and watching them grow has made
me one of the happiest people out there. It's not for everyone and
that's totally fine.
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